tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post5179650148547351263..comments2023-10-26T08:26:41.055-04:00Comments on The Mixed Up Brains of Lisa Weinstein: Lisa Gradess Weinsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17817748124515829877noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-61600264909447493502012-04-16T18:44:27.107-04:002012-04-16T18:44:27.107-04:00I so agree Bella!I so agree Bella!Lisa Gradess Weinsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817748124515829877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-54990777103759273692012-04-16T18:44:01.047-04:002012-04-16T18:44:01.047-04:00Hi Cindy - thankfully my daughter hasn't had t...Hi Cindy - thankfully my daughter hasn't had too much trouble yet with Facebook - I just thank my lucky stars that Facebook wasn't around when I was in high school. I was on the victim end of some bullying, and FB would have made it much, much worse!Lisa Gradess Weinsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817748124515829877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-63403269398207330682012-04-16T18:42:42.048-04:002012-04-16T18:42:42.048-04:00I know what you mean, sometimes I think we can lea...I know what you mean, sometimes I think we can learn more from watching kids than from watching our peers!Lisa Gradess Weinsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817748124515829877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-38022515862686775682012-04-16T18:42:00.965-04:002012-04-16T18:42:00.965-04:00Kristin that is so true, if kids feel they are lov...Kristin that is so true, if kids feel they are loved, they'll be ok!Lisa Gradess Weinsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817748124515829877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-38608359790730121292012-04-16T11:16:27.351-04:002012-04-16T11:16:27.351-04:00Sometimes all people need is reassurance of their ...Sometimes all people need is reassurance of their value and strong support system!Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15540813696603861032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-12786707097758797672012-04-16T05:03:47.673-04:002012-04-16T05:03:47.673-04:00Really, our kids forgive much faster than we can. ...Really, our kids forgive much faster than we can. I guess we have to take their lead. Chuck lots up to misunderstanding, forgive ourselves. Man it is hard!Heal Now and Foreverhttp://www.healnowandforever.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-53114791063139292882012-04-15T22:19:06.381-04:002012-04-15T22:19:06.381-04:00Lisa, I had this happen recently too. A girl had s...Lisa, I had this happen recently too. A girl had said horrible things to my daughter in a Facebook message. I went through the same thought process as you did (beating up teens crosses my mind a lot these days) and ended up deciding to print the message out and take it to the school counselor (the girl had indicated she was going to start trouble at school, so it was justified). When I accessed the account, I found I had bitten off more than I could chew. Not only was that girl in trouble, but I found that another boy needed to get in trouble and that my daughter should not have a Facebook account. She got in trouble, the boy got in trouble, the girl got in trouble, and I prayed for Calgon to take me away. I talked to the principal, the counselor, a parent, and even considered pulling my daughter out of school and home schooling her so she wouldn't have to deal with all of the social crap. But then I guess that's part of how they learn about life, so that's the rub.Hiyacynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648329765845940034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-80445875494630934982012-04-15T19:56:13.110-04:002012-04-15T19:56:13.110-04:00As mothers, it's natural for our protective in...As mothers, it's natural for our protective instincts to kick in when someone hurts our children. This post resonated with me. I remember feeling the same way many times as my children grew up. What to do? At times the best thing is what you did--stay out of it. As long as our children feel our unconditional support, that's all that matters. These difficulties add character and allow our kids to problem solve.Bellahttp://gypsyroxylee.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-10232933178061020952012-04-15T19:31:05.001-04:002012-04-15T19:31:05.001-04:00I am sorry this happened to Melissa and you. It is...I am sorry this happened to Melissa and you. It is hard to be a mother, but we all go through the same things. I think experiences as Melissa just had creates opportunity to rethink how important it is to choose your friends carefully. And sometimes even good friends make mistakes. Time it is everything in this case. They might become best friends one day. You never know.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-51220846819462429852012-04-15T17:18:09.653-04:002012-04-15T17:18:09.653-04:00So true!So true!Lisa Gradess Weinsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817748124515829877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-60444568233731189502012-04-15T17:17:48.315-04:002012-04-15T17:17:48.315-04:00I know... thanks Laura!I know... thanks Laura!Lisa Gradess Weinsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817748124515829877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-73644426384107605502012-04-15T17:17:12.091-04:002012-04-15T17:17:12.091-04:00It was hard, I hard to use all my willpower not th...It was hard, I hard to use all my willpower not the call the other mom!Lisa Gradess Weinsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817748124515829877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-91234727596660219812012-04-15T11:43:52.151-04:002012-04-15T11:43:52.151-04:00My mother used to tell me how much it hurt her whe...My mother used to tell me how much it hurt her when I'd come home from school, sometimes crying and lock myself in my room, because Leslie, or Ann, or one of my other best friends, ignored me, or hurt me in some way. She did stay out of it and 9 our of 10 times, we were all friends again, the very next day. Teenagerdom sucks. But brava for letting the situation run is course.TheGirlfriendMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04650095416925896321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-85932993503979697212012-04-15T10:37:09.713-04:002012-04-15T10:37:09.713-04:00I am with you, Lisa! Nobody hurts my kids! It is...I am with you, Lisa! Nobody hurts my kids! It is a crazy instinct, isn't it? One I never knew existed until I had kids. I am definitely mama bear, and I can tell you are too. You overcame your desire to punish those who hurt your baby, and it worked out for the best. I have to remember this!Laura@Catharsishttp://findcatharsis.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-90978300339038860622012-04-15T07:19:45.527-04:002012-04-15T07:19:45.527-04:00You did the right thing but Gosh how I wish to sla...You did the right thing but Gosh how I wish to slap this other kid's face... Sorry, as a mother, we often think with our guts then our brain.Sparkle and Cohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15050006755309244150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-1285536671493188862012-04-14T17:21:30.762-04:002012-04-14T17:21:30.762-04:00Wow, thank you Sandra!Wow, thank you Sandra!Lisa Gradess Weinsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817748124515829877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-53895727034067305052012-04-14T17:19:22.993-04:002012-04-14T17:19:22.993-04:00Isn't it amazing how you really feel capable o...Isn't it amazing how you really feel capable of making the other child's life miserable when they dare to hurt our babies. I remember when my first child was a toddler and he got bit by another toddler. I thought I was going to faint!!! And, then the words come! I'm so glad you were able to stay out of it, good for you and good for your daughter. I think it's so empowering to them when they solve their own issues and I think it's so great that she trusted you enough to tell you. Good job Mom!!! Not an easy thing to do!! I didn't like being 14 the first time, I can't believe I have to go through it 3 times more!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09107661365906909620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-80323025063867803302012-04-14T17:07:33.095-04:002012-04-14T17:07:33.095-04:00You did the right thing, Momma. You stayed out of ...You did the right thing, Momma. You stayed out of it. In the long run, the more we can stay out of our kids' hurts, the better; they have to cope on their own finally. It's a SUPER hard lesson I'm finding, and my son is only 8. He's been very hurt this year by a friend who has said things, well, that hurt. I would never confront the boy or his mother. But I can do what you did, talk to my son, put a perspective on it. The thing I always want to say is that none of this will seem so earth shattering years from now. Of course, that will fall on deaf ears as it does with all children growing up, having to feel their way through their early years. You're a good strong Momma!!Sandra Tylerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13191775335774130719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-53123194968192203292012-04-14T16:29:22.510-04:002012-04-14T16:29:22.510-04:00Thanks for sharing your story Monica, I can so rel...Thanks for sharing your story Monica, I can so relate! It makes perfect sense!Lisa Gradess Weinsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817748124515829877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-48253907754865833672012-04-14T13:49:32.921-04:002012-04-14T13:49:32.921-04:00Lisa, this is one of the hardest things we have to...Lisa, this is one of the hardest things we have to deal with as parents. We love our kids so much, and do all we can to make sure they know that. Then some pipsqueak comes along and tries to puncture a hole in the love we've wrapped around our kids. I know just how you feel. <br /><br />When my daughter was in 2nd grade we moved and she was in a new school. She wanted to join a Girl Scout troop and one of the girls in her class, who was already in the troop, pretty much told her she wasn't welcomed. My daughter came home in tears, believing that was the "gospel" and she'd never get into a troop. Needless, to say I made a few calls; I never told anyone what that kid had said to mine. I just moved ahead and enrolled her into the very same troop. Over time, that kid came around and pretty soon they became good friends. Years later, it came up and she told us how she regretted having said that. It was mean, it was hurtful, but in the end, it passed. <br /><br />What's important is the love and support you give to your child over their lifetime. Those incidents, which make us feel so bad, are fleeting. We as parents, are not. Hope that makes sense. :)monicastangledwebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311906301829091998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741838949572545400.post-15764912574002383022012-04-13T22:45:28.134-04:002012-04-13T22:45:28.134-04:00It is so hard to watch our children go through pai...It is so hard to watch our children go through pain. You're so right, though. When they are young, hugs, snuggles, and kisses fix everything. But in those teenage years and beyond, sometimes they just have to experience the hurt. And it hurts us moms like hell.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com